There is a difference between homosexual feelings and being gay. When someone struggles with homosexual feelings, that does not make them gay. To have homosexual feelings, and to acknowledge them is one thing, but to invest your entire identity into your sexual preference, is another. That is being gay. It colours the way you relate to society, because the traditional way that things are put together, with men and women, and children and so forth, is everything that you are not. That is my story. If you are interested in what I have to say, you may very well have spent many hours agonizing over your life To be fair to you, I must make it clear that, whereas I used to be gay, now I am a Christian in the "traditional" sense, in that I do not believe it is reasonably possible to reconcile active homosexuality as a lifestyle with the lifestyle of being a follower of Jesus. For the purposes of this website, my position is clear and I am not prepared to dicuss it. (There is respectful dialogue at Bridges Across) I am prepared to say this: in my opinion we cannot get away from the facts: God made us men and women, and every discussion on sexual relationship in the Bible, every description of us a mirror of the Almighty, as his image, describes us as relating to each other as male and female So I want to tell honestly of what it means to follow the path to which I believe we have all been called, homo- as well as heterosexual: the path of submission of our sexuality to Christ. It is not an easy path