Why a wife's perspective? Well, if there is anybody who can tell you whether there is such a thing as an ExGay man, surely it would be his wife!

If you have any questions that I don't answer here, Email me and I will see what I can do! --Jenny

1. Did you suspect that Duncan was gay when you met him?

No not really.

2. Did Duncan tell you up front that he had a gay background?

On our first "official date" Duncan told me " I once was gay, but now I am straight…"

3. What was your reaction when you found out that he had been gay?

I don't really remember what my reaction was. I seem to remember that I wasn't too concerned.

4. Why did you decide to marry him in spite of his past?

I really believe that God told me that this was the man I was to marry.

5. Have you ever regretted marrying an ExGay man?

This is not an easy question to answer. There have been times when I regretted that he was ExGay, but not that I married him. The reason I regretted that he was ExGay, was that he got very involved in ministering to gay and ExGay people and I found that I felt very left out.

6. Does he behave like a "normal" man in his relationship to you and your children?

What is a "normal" man? Duncan is very encouraging, loving and supportive of me and the children. He is most definitely the head of our home.

7. Does Duncan satisfy you sexually?

When Duncan and I got married I was still a virgin. Consequently I did not know what would satisfy me sexually. To be honest, no, Duncan does not satisfy me sexually – the reason is because I am still learning to be comfortable with my own sexuality and body.

8. Does it bother you when he mentions his past lovers?

Not really.

9. Do you ever worry that he may desert you and the children and go back to the lifestyle?

I would be lying if I said that it didn't worry me once in a while. On the whole I am convinced that he would not return to the lifestyle. There are occasions when I do worry but they are very few and far between. As Duncan walks through the healing process, I trust more and more in God's ability to heal him more and more. I guess the threat of him returning to the lifestyle, is just as real as the threat of any other man cheating on his wife or returning to an old girlfriend.

10. Would you recommend that a woman marry an ex-gay?

If he has been totally honest about his past and he is committed to walk through the long process of changing, and if he is accountable to others and you and committed to God's healing, then yes. If he is still "struggling" with homosexuality and is not sure if he will change, then no.